Mentorship

Christian mentorship, friend mentorship, professional mentorship, pastoral mentorship - however you can get mentorship it is good for your relationship. The best thing for any relationship is to watch, listen and learn from those who have it together. If you want to be the best golfer, you watch Tiger Woods. If you want to be the best chef, you watch Julia Childs. If you want a great marriage, you watch those with a great marriage. I like to look at those in the church because if someone has a Godly marriage, then they are doing something right in this world. I want some of that. So my prayer this day is that I will find a great small group for my husband and I to attend, where they are successful in life and in their marriages, where they put God first and they are in joy and peace with their lives. Where their drive and determination aren't only for business, it's also for their marriage. Where God is first, Spouse is second and Self is third. I pray God will bring this small group to our doorstep and we will grow in community and life with them. What about you? Who are you mentoring? Who are you listening to to guide your marriage? Is it a friend and are they giving good Christian advice or is it a friend who wants you to party with them? Think about who is giving the advice before you listen with your whole heart.

The Act of Romance

So today's dare is easy if you are married, hard if you are in a relationship. It's about intimacy with your spouse. When you are dating, it's all you think about. Intimacy with your spouse and how you are looking forward to it. You spend your whole dating time saying no to that feeling and emotion. Then you get married, and you are to be intimate immediately. You are to turn off that no and just do it. It's the hardest thing. What you have been controlling you let become uncontrolled. What you are saying no to is all of sudden a yes. If you are just getting married, my advise just let it happen when it happens. There isn't a need to have it right away and it messes with your mind. God will take care of it. Now if you've been married, had an intimate relationship and it's fallen apart. This is difficult too. God is working on your heart with the Love Dare. He is taking you through all the steps again to enjoy your marriage but this is the ultimate in giving to your spouse. Because in the act of intimacy you are giving your heart and trusting again. It is definitely difficult but when you have this trust again, it's the best. The Dare verse is 1 Corinthians 7:3 "The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband." Duty isn't just the act it's everything leading up to the act, it's a clean bedroom, it's candles, it's flowers, it's listening, it's communicating, it's touching and loving. When all this is occurring in a relationship, intimacy is sure to follow. May God Bless your relationship today.