Leaving and Cleaving

How do you become one? Especially when you both have baggage galore coming into the relationship. You have been married before, maybe even children are a part of the mix. How do you redefine friendships? What is the best way to become one with your new spouse in a world where maintaining individuality is "essential"? Well you throw away everything you had and let God lead the relationship. Yep, that means friendships will be redefined, parenting will be redefined, individuality will be redefined. And guess what it's all good!!!

Have you ever heard friends say things like well, she's got a boyfriend so we won't see her anymore? Well that's because that friend is practicing the leaving and cleaving and redefining her friendships because of her boyfriend. I don't know if I agree with doing this for a boyfriend but once you have committed to your husband then I believe the leaving and cleaving begins. Now don't get me wrong this doesn't mean leave your friends high and dry. This means you will redefine your friendships because you will always put your husband first. You don't get to go partying with your friends every Friday night now. You do get to meet them for lunch or dinner occasionally. You don't get to spend all day on Saturday with the girlfriends at the movies and shopping but you can spend 2 hours shopping with them. It's a give and take to find the balance that will work for you and your husband. I know some will say, I never see my friend Karen anymore. But in reality they do, just on a different timetable because my everything goes to my husband. This is how you leave and cleave. Your friends will get used to it and be happy for the times they can spend with you. And believe me your guilt will dissipate too because in the end you are honoring the commitment you made before God, your husband and your family.

Remember the line of commitment God, Husband, Children, You, Family, Friends. Your best goes to God and your immediate family.

Peace and Love to you!

Love's Motivation

It is amazing what motivates love. I have no idea why God loves me other than He made me. I mean really I sin all the time with my words and thoughts. I try but fail many times over. Then I think about the love my husband has for me. I have no idea why he loves me other than he chose me. I mean really I say things that are hurtful and I don't make life easy. Sometimes I'm even a nag of sorts. So what motivates the love we share. I believe it's the love I have for God.

Do you ever notice when you are in a bad mood and you hang out with someone in a good mood how your mood lifts? Do you ever notice when you don't want to smile but someone tells a good joke, you laugh anyway? Well it's the same principal, when I show my love for God then my husband's love for me grows. Just like when he shows his love for God then my love for my husband grows. There is nothing more loving than sitting down to dinner and holding my husbands hand while he prays over the meal. I mean that makes me love him more even if we just had a disagreement. My heart just melts. Love begets love. So if you are wondering if your spouse loves you maybe you should look at how you are loving God and displaying that love. Love's motivation is God! Amazing huh?

Blessings to you this week!